Thursday, January 1, 2009
Isn’t it funny how we put the bad things from our mind? Dwell on them as briefly as is necessary and move on. Search for the positive, the lessons.
Maybe this isn’t the case for everyone and maybe I’m just really lucky that my default setting is positive and happy but I’m sure we all do it to a point. When I did an overview of my year it looked fabulous and peachy, no? And it was. Oh yes it really was. A great year. They almost always are.
But only after I got a few comments saying how lucky I was did I think, yes I really am. Except of course Jo-Jo dying (of a brain tumour after she had successfully battled cancer through sheer positive thought). And Silky (who died suddenly of an Ebola like disease) and dear Janine, my best friend from university who is battling cervical cancer. And that I didn’t manage to make an awful lot of money this year since I’m starting out in a brand new country with all the bureaucracy setting up a new company involves, with a new language etc. And just now I was looking through some pictures from the year and saw the wreckage of the fire from when my husband’s office burned down (his second month in to his new job), taking most of the operational side of the company with it. And I thought, Oh yeah, I forgot about that!
But why focus on these negative things? Jo-Jo taught us all so much about love and life and the power of positive thinking. And Silky was one of those gorgeous people, an aura of sunshine. A barefoot glowing cherub, we were lucky to have known her. And Janine? Well I’m afraid I’m still in denial there so…..
And what’s not earning much money when you have all these new opportunities coming rushing at you from the sidelines and headlong? A new language to learn – how exciting is that! New actors to train! We didn’t starve this year. We have food, we have health, we have loved ones.
I don’t mean to sound glib. When you experience the death of a close friend or family member I know it can knock you off kilter for years. And terrible terrible things happen that it’s hard to pick yourself up from. But if you focus on the small bad things it doesn’t help anyone. I really believe that negativity breeds bad things, I really do. What’s a fire to worry about when no-one got hurt? Okay it destroyed everything material and half the complex but really, so what? Husband now has a lovely tent in the garden as an office and that’s much nicer!
The point is you could focus on all the negatives but where would that leave you? There is always a positive, always a lesson and I think we should all consciously do more of that this year and see if my theory is right and focusing on the positive really does enhance our life and make us happier…
What harm can it do?